What About Your Friends???
Now you know I’m not religious but I recently watched a very moving sermon by TD Jakes where he classified the 3 types of friends that enter your life: 1. Confidant, i.e. BFF 2. Constituents, people who align with you to support a greater cause 3. Comrades, people who join forces with you to ward off a greater enemy He went on to say that most people are lucky if they have 2-3 confidants in their lifetime. I must admit, I’ve been more than fortunate to encounter numerous confidants throughout my life. Some of those confidants were seasonal and we outgrew each other, but ...
Choices…
So many to make, so many to regret, so many to remember, so many to delay. In every moment of our lives, we make choices. It’s up to each of us to determine the difference between good and bad choices. Ideally we’d always choose a healthy mix of good choices. The reality is that influencers like greed, passion, anger, jealousy, and fear (to make a new) can get us off track. Regardless of the influence, you have to be accountable for the choices you make, both in good and bad times. You can’t be responsible for your life if you can’t accept ...
CHANNELING THE RETURN OF A DON
Dearest Deev, Have you missed me? I've missed you! My apologies for not posting over the last few weeks. I've been healing from an injury I sustained on vacation that required shoulder surgery. Needless to say my ability to type has been limited. The good news is that I'm on the road to recovery! Normally I'm an on the go Deev, but over the last few weeks I've been sequestered in my home, healing and thinking. Trust me, there's nothing like an impairment to really make you stop to evaluate what is and isn't in your life. I'm reminded that romantic love ...
Get Your House In Order
Deev, I spent the majority of the last 24 hours at home. If you know me personally then you are probably wondering if I came down with a sudden case of food poisoning or the H1N1 virus. Rest assured it was nothing that dire. All I can tell you is that I have been feeling the weight of a lot of goals and objectives that I set out for myself as well as the weight of some inevitable setbacks. Isn’t it funny how those feisty setbacks can appear out of the blue? After all, what is a triumph without some challenges to ...
YOU BRING YOU JOY!
Deevs, People will come in and out of your lives. Along the way they will take and give you a lot of memories and possessions. They will also stir emotions and feelings inside of you, but the one thing that nobody can take away from you is your JOY! Joy is a constant and your personal joy can only be manifested by you! Yes, people will test it and try to rob you of it. Some people will even try to make you believe that you don’t deserve it. You have to overlook them. Some people lost their joy a long time ...
Chasing Love
Deev, How many countless clichés have you heard about finding love? You can’t hurry it, you can’t look for it, you can’t find IT, it finds you, it will happen when you least expect it, its right around the corner, stop looking, it will happen, be patient, etc… I’ve received full immunization and vaccination from those clichés, but it was something about this quote that really resonated with me. “If u chase love it will elude u, if u become love it will surround you!” TheDailyLove. Honey I‘ve engaged in planning, navigating, scenario-plotting, neck popping, chasing love for years. It wasn’t until I read ...
The Glass Is Half Full
Deevs, Well if you are in my inner circle, Twitter Clique, or Facebook Fam, it’s no secret that I have really been in an awful place for a few days. The good news is that I’M BACK, renewed, and ready to fight the good fight. When you are on the verge of everything, you can feel like you are on the edge of nothingness, especially when everything isn’t outlined like a blueprint or neatly wrapped and tied with a red ribbon in front of you. I’m truly grateful for the calls, texts, emails, and in person accolades that I’ve been receiving from my ...
Monday Morning Inspiration
It Was All A Dream… Until I opened my Eyes, Mind, and Mouth to make it a REALITY! DEEV, This is your Monday morning mission: Do more than Dream! Wake up, think about what you want to accomplish in life, and verbalize it! Be forewarned: your affirmations for new career aspirations may be met with odd stares and facial gestures of disbelief. LET IT HAPPEN!The greater the plateaus you want to reach, the harsher the critiques you'll receive along your journey. These people will one day be affectionately referred to as your haters, but let their seeds of doubt encourage and motivate ...
Seasons Change, Priorities Rearrange, Friendships Ain’t the Same
Deevs, As I look at the snow falling onto 8thAvenue, I can’t help but think how differently the weather was 6 months ago. Instead of blasting the heat, I blasted the AC. Instead of freezing my butt off trying not to fall on slippery sidewalks, I coordinated acceptable outfits that required the least amount of clothing. All the seasons: Fall, Summer, Spring, and Winter have their rightful places. It’s ok to wear a wool coat in February and Capri pants in August, but if you wore the Capri’s during a snowstorm, you might catch pneumonia. Likewise, if you wore a wool coat ...
The Art of Patience
Deevs, So I decided to start this week out on the right foot by telling you about my Achilles heel. Ain’t got, ain’t had, ain’t wanted, ain’t needed… PATIENCE! That has always been my motto. Now if you have any sense at all (I’ve been known to lose mine from time to time), you know this type of mentality can cause anyone their fair share of HARD KNOCK LIFE LESSONS. I’m still learning the lessons and my lack of restraint and patience has definitely caused me to miss the mark a few too many times then I’d care to recall. I will confess that ...
ALIGN YOUR GOALS WITH THE VISION FOR YOUR PRIZE
Deev, You know I LIVE for your conversations! Recently I realized that amongst my many gifts is the gift of being a vessel to TAKE IN and ABSORB your circumstances so that I may provide you with a heightened sense of awareness and acknowledgement FOR THINGS YOU ALREADY KNOW! Getting someone to enlightenment is not an easy task. An open mind is key. Recently I had a fabulous, impromptu evening out with some of my favorite Deevs. One Deev has really been going through some LOVE CHANGES with her mate. You know I’m a firm believer in Iyanla Vanzant’s classification of THE ...
WHERE IS YOUR HAPPINESS? TO MCQUEEN WITH L.U.V.
Deev, Is your soul at ease? Are you in full acceptance of yourself and your life? Are you stronger than the many, many challenges and tidal waves that are sure to confront you throughout life’s journey? REMEMBER, YOU ARE NOT GREAT BECAUSE OTHER PEOPLE REFER TO YOU AS SUCH and YOU DONT HAVE IT ALL JUST BECAUSE PEOPLE ADORE AND IDOLIZE YOU FOR YOUR TALENT OR BEAUTY. How much of your self-value and self-worth is tied up in other people’s perceptions? How much of your happiness do you place on what other people think and how they react to you? Everyday isn’t sunshine. There ...
WHEN THE SAINTS GO MARCHING IN…
Whether you’re a football fanatic, a sucker for a happy ending, or typically root for the under-dog, I’m sure you were delighted by the New Orleans Saints heart-felt victory over the Indianapolis Colts. Going into the game, the odds were stacked against the Saints and the majority of football fans and critics thought their journey to the Super bowl was a fluke; so surely, they didn’t have the skill set to win it! After all, the Colts have part of the Manning Dynasty and a legacy of championship wins in their favor, for all intensive purposes the Colts had the game ...
LUV YOUR MAN LIKE YOU LUV LV
Deev, So in part deuce of the fierce Deev brunch the conversation shifted to trust and control. I had to admit to the girls that I’m very guarded with my heart. I don’t generally give or invest it too easily. Coming one step cleaner, I typically only make it available in unrequited love scenarios (you know investing my energy in the type of dude that is emotionally unavailable). I know, I know… but his emotional unavailability gives us both an excuse for why it can’t work. OK, there I said it. But one of the Deevs took me to Sunday School Brunch, ...
A.S.K. DashonDonDiva™
Good Morning Diva, Have u ever lost yourself completely in someone else? Have u ever turned into the person YOU THOUGHT they wanted you to be and in turn lost everything? Your house, friends, car, and family relationship just to make it work? Well I have, and I'm to the point where I just don't care anymore. I'm truly tired. My inquiry is how do you get it all back? YOUR life, not what he turned your life into? How do you make him understand it's not just his way anymore? How can I show him better than I can tell him? ...
A.S.K. DashonDonDiva™
Dear DashonDonDiva, I was in a long term interracial relationship for over 10 years and ended things about a year ago. After I finally got the courage to walk away, I started partying A LOT! I also realized how much I want to have a husband and start a family. After all, I am in my 30s!! Recently I fell in love with a wonderful man. We’re from similar backgrounds so I know my parents will accept our relationship. He asked me to be his wife and I happily accepted, but since our engagement, I haven’t slowed down on the party ...
PLAY YOUR POSITION
DEEVS, Come on now. I know your MAMA and Iyanla Vanzant taught you about The Meantime, but I’m here to teach you about the game of FOOTBALL. You wanna move yardage like T.O. (on a good day) or kick it from the line of scrimmage like Payton Manning? The key to their success is that these players PLAY THEIR POSITION. Deevs, some of you got illusions of grandeur when it comes to the ROLE YOU PLAYING IN THIS MAN’S LIFE! I had to refer to him as THIS MAN, because he may not be yours, and somewhere in your rule book, YOU KNOW THIS AINT REALLY ...
I’M CALLING IT: 18 HOS OF GOLF…
DEEVS... Well at least 10 have been identified. At this point it’s definitely conceivable that 8 other mistresses are in the wings waiting to claim their 15 minutes of fame. Is this what Jolly Old St. Nick meant when he repeatedly exclaimed: HO, HO, HO? Somehow I don’t think the latest tabloid revelations are Elin or Tiger Woods’ idea of a delightful stocking stuffer, but we’re all glued to this train-wrecking celebtastrophe. On the bright side, this scandal has provided a much needed spike in holiday newsstand sales and online ad revenue for entertainment focused websites. Likewise, the PGA must be excited ...
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Breaking the Circle
Deev of Divine Deevity, Let us pray! Where oh where would I be without the wise souls...
ALIGN YOUR GOALS WITH THE VISION FOR YOUR PRIZE
Deev, You know I LIVE for your conversations! Recently I realized that amongst my...
LUV YOUR MAN LIKE YOU LUV LV
Deev, So in part deuce of the fierce Deev brunch the conversation shifted to trust...
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Choices…
So many to make, so many to regret, so many to remember, so many to delay. In every...
CHANNELING THE RETURN OF A DON
Dearest Deev, Have you missed me? I’ve missed you! My apologies for not posting...
Get Your House In Order
Deev, I spent the majority of the last 24 hours at home. If you know me personally...
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Monday Morning Inspiration
It Was All A Dream… Until I opened my Eyes, Mind, and Mouth to make it a REALITY! DEEV, This is your Monday morning mission: Do more than Dream! Wake up, think about what you want to accomplish in life, and verbalize it! Be forewarned: your affirmations for new career aspirations may be met with odd stares and facial gestures of disbelief. LET IT... [Read more of this review]
WHEN THE SAINTS GO MARCHING IN…
Whether you’re a football fanatic, a sucker for a happy ending, or typically root for the under-dog, I’m sure you were delighted by the New Orleans Saints heart-felt victory over the Indianapolis Colts. Going into the game, the odds were stacked against the Saints and the majority of football fans and critics thought their journey to the Super bowl... [Read more of this review]
WHEN THE SCALES ARE UNBALANCED…
Deev, Are you giving your man the best you got? How about your job? How about yourself? Are you giving everyone and everything else so much of YOU that there’s NO TIME OR ENERGY left for DEEV? Why do you feel it’s acceptable to put your needs at the bottom of the priority list? Here’s your inspector gadget clue: IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE! Even if... [Read more of this review]
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